Although “boysober” sounds like a term that only refers to women, it is said to be a gender-neutral term. The term “boysober” was first coined by comedian Hope Woodard and quickly became popular among young people on the social media platform TikTok. “Here are the rules of boysober in 2024…No dating apps, no dates, no exes, no situationships. I’ve always said, ‘I’m single. I’m single.’ But I’ve never been single. Because if someone’s taking up your brain space, you’re not single. Okay?” Hope Woodard said on TikTok.
Many people shared her views and quickly joined the trend, which became quite popular on the internet. One user said, “After a lot of dating, I have decided to stay single for the rest of my life,” while another wrote, “I feel incredibly at peace.”
“Boysover” is about breaking free from toxic relationships, situations, people, and the pressure to get approval from a special someone in order to be loved. Instead, it encourages you to be single, discover yourself, heal from past trauma or toxic relationships, and truly be happy by spending time with yourself. And if things go well, you’ll find a loving partner or find true self-love in the process.
The importance of self-love in romantic relationships
It’s often said that before you can find love, you first need to love yourself, and it’s true. I mean, unless you truly love yourself, prioritize yourself, set boundaries, and know what you really want in life, how can anyone else possibly do that? After all, as author Stephen Chbosky really says in The Perks of Being a Perk, “We accept the love we think we deserve.”
Self-love is a fundamental component of a healthy romantic relationship. It is the foundation of a partnership in which both parties can thrive and grow together. Understanding and appreciating yourself allows you to enter into a romantic relationship more fully, honestly, and openly, leading to deeper connection and mutual respect. These relationships also tend to last longer than other relationships.
It helps with self-esteem and self-confidence and also boosts emotional resilience. Difficulties and conflicts are inevitable for people in romantic relationships, but people who love themselves are better able to deal with these challenges. They are more likely to approach problems with a solution-oriented mindset rather than slipping into blame and victimhood. This resilience helps couples weather difficult situations and bounce back stronger together, building a lasting, healthy relationship.
