We’re now halfway through June, and many single people are probably excited to enjoy the hot summer weather.
Now, the dating world is a strange and wonderful one, filled with a ton of jargon that people have concocted over the years to navigate that environment.
We already know all about the “box theory”, the “banana theory” and the effects of “orbiting”… but there’s one more phrase we need to add to our dating lexicon – FONMO.
Dating expert Tina Wilson explains that FONMO is directly inspired by the acronym we often use in everyday conversation: FOMO (Fear of Missing Out).
Another dating term to add to our arsenal. (EmirMemedovski / Getty Images)
But FONMO means “fear” I never have miss.
FONMO challenges traditional relationship timelines and societal pressures, encouraging individuals to embrace their own pace in love and life.
“Rather than succumbing to outdated stereotypes, Gen Z is rewriting the rules, prioritizing personal empowerment and fun over societal expectations,” Tina says.
Thus, by setting clear boundaries and recognising harmful dating behaviours, FONMO helps daters “enter into relationships honestly and confidently”.
The expert added: “FONMO is more than just a trend — it represents a cultural shift toward authenticity and empowerment in dating and relationships.”
Tina also warned about “summer shade.”
Well, frankly, imagine how you would feel if you heard that your beloved boyfriend/girlfriend was planning to embark on his very own “hot summer” adventure.
Tina also warned about “shade in the summer.” (The Good Brigade/Getty Images)
Simply put, the term refers to the phenomenon whereby individuals purposely avoid commitments or end relationships in search of attachment-free freedom and fun during summer or prolonged heatwaves, Tina told us exclusively this week.
“The phrase reflects the tendency for people to prioritize temporary pleasure over lasting relationships during the warmer months.”
“This may be due in part to increased serotonin levels caused by sunlight.”
As Tina says, these brutal breakups have become especially prevalent among Gen Z daters – officially aged between 12 and 27 – and are likely driven by a desire not to miss out on some of the most fun (and often chaotic) social events.
The relationship expert explained: “If you’re experiencing summer shading, it’s recommended that you reevaluate the relationship, have an honest discussion about your intentions and, if necessary, move on to avoid long-term hurt.”
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